If you are single, you may have had moments of pure envy of your friends who are partnered and if you are partnered you may have envy of your friends who are single.
Happiness is not determined by coupledom alone. For those of you who know about my work, you know that the key is to be able to access your own inner wellspring of unconditional love, the essence of who you truly are, and as you do so, all the relationships you attract are a match to that which you are.
In the old paradigm, women were portrayed as desperate if they didn’t have a partner. Courtship was often about survival or prestige first and love or rather what suited your personal desires last. Dating was not about exploration or discovery (at least not on a conscious level). Actually this concept is still perpetuated, that there is something wrong with an older woman who isn’t in a relationship, just look at the TV show Cougar Town. Or rather, don’t look at it if you want to feel good.
The truth of the matter is that the evolution of “relationship” on this planet happens as people experience a diversity of pairings, this doesn’t necessarily mean lots of sexual partners, it just refers to interactions (some short, some long, some intimate, some not).
All of it, serves the whole by creating more preferences and desires and helping the ever expansion of the Universe. And it is in the intensity of these interactions, that people (spiritual giants really) that creates expands exponentially, more than it ever could without interaction.
For most of you, I know you want the “One”, a person perhaps the only person who you want to spend the rest of your life with. Or at least a person you’d like to co-create with for a good while.
Wonderful! But if you aren’t there yet, and you want to accelerate the process, my recommendation is to date, and date profusely.
Why? Why put yourself out there you ask? Why expose yourself to possible judgment, rejection or having to reject someone? Why risk loving someone who doesn’t love you back?
Ahhhhh, because it has nothing to do with them. It has to do with you. It’s all about Your self discovery. It is to serve YOUR personal expansion.
Do you realize that YOU are an extension of Source energy and the YOUR preferences are important, valued, and part of what literally expands all of creation? In the dating process, you are exposed to variety, and with variety, your desire is increased.
You’ll find yourself thinking thoughts like, “I like this person’s passion for life but that person’s groundedness. I like this person’s intellectual knowledge and that person’s respect for nature. I like this person’s creativity and that person’s attention to detail. I like soft curly hair, and soulful eyes.”
And of course you may find a lot of things you do not want. All of it is vitalizing information and as you stay open, Source takes ALL of the information and CREATES the life of your dreams.
All you have to do is match the vibration and that BIG LOVE will tumble right into your life, warm embracing, thrilling, everything you wanted because YOU WANTED and ALLOWED.
So what is the stance, the attitude to take in order to milk the most out of your time as a “single” person as you head towards a love that will satisfy you for a long time to come?
Date passionately, and mine each person for their magnificence. Allow each and every interaction to spark curiosity, to reveal to you your likes and dislikes. Allow yourself to deepen and broaden your experience and understanding of the variety and brilliance that is Source expressing itself as human.
Expect to be surprised, to be humbled (in a beautiful way) by the LOVE that is all around you. And USE your dates to come into alignment with who YOU are, to get into YOUR joy.
USE the dates to reflect to you your own fascinating and magnificent self!
In love and joyful expectation of your ensuing love affair with life,
Bella
